On September 22, 2022, the child’s grandmother died, and our children cried when they went to school. The school teacher called the social worker. The social worker imagines domestic violence happening and decides to remove the child from the family.
In this case, the schoolteacher and social worker decided to overreact because the child’s crying might just be a normal emotional response to the death of the grandmother. Social workers should take more prudent and thoughtful measures, such as communicating with parents to learn more about the situation, assessing the child’s condition, assessing possible risks and threats, and seeking legal help and support, instead of blindly deciding to let the child out family. It is a normal reaction for children to experience emotional difficulties and cry after the loss of a loved one, and families should provide them with support and comfort rather than depriving them of the support and security of their family during this difficult time.
After a child leaves the home, social workers contact the child’s parents. As a form of deception, remove the child’s belongings from the home. Such behavior is highly unethical and social workers should not use deception to obtain children’s items. Social workers should treat the child’s parents frankly and negotiate the matter on the basis of respecting the rights of the family and the rights of the child. Social workers should always act ethically and professionally to ensure that their actions are lawful and appropriate, while respecting the rights and interests of all parties involved.
Social workers also provide certain possibilities for children who want to contact their parents, but their purpose is to temporarily deceive parents’ trust and achieve their goals. Social workers don’t care about children and parents at all.
So when social workers get everything they want, they stop communicating with us. This is a very insidious ruse.
After that, the social worker immediately cut off the child’s communication channel with the parents, making up reasons that the child did not want to contact. Of course, it is also possible that the child is not in contact with her parents anymore, because she is in such a semi-closed, half-lost and unfamiliar environment, with a lot of psychological pressure every day, and is very tired, and has no energy to contact her parents. Such behavior by social workers is highly irresponsible and immoral. Social workers should fully respect the rights of families and parents, and not take drastic measures to deprive them of contact information. If the social worker has any concerns or doubts, they should fully communicate and negotiate with the parents, rather than take action without authorization. This severing of ties further damages the relationship between the child and the family, increasing estrangement and mistrust between them.
Then, when the child actually meets the parents, ask the child if he wants to meet the parents, and first tell the child that you can not meet the parents, and we cannot force you to meet the parents. It is a kind of mental violence for us to force you to meet the parents. The child seldom hesitated, and the social worker made up that the child did not want to meet the parents. During the meeting, put the child in another room and start a remote meeting. It is also irresponsible and unethical for a social worker to make up that a child does not want to see or to place a child in another room without allowing them to see their parents. The role of social workers is to protect the rights and welfare of children and to provide support and assistance to children and families wherever possible. Separating children from their parents can negatively impact a child’s emotional and mental health and weaken the bond and trust between the family and the child. During the teleconference, the social workers shut down the opportunity for the parents to communicate with the children, did not turn on the children’s microphones, and did not allow the children to speak, but relayed it to the social workers there so that they could lie and make up in time.
If the child did not object to the meeting, the social worker deliberately separated the child from the parents during the meeting and forced the child to sit away from the parents. Surrounded by social workers, children lose their freedom of movement and expression. If the child wants to speak, he is hinted or even stopped by the social worker. This behavior directly causes psychological stress and trauma to the child. The child felt lonely and uneasy when he was forced to separate from his parents. Surrounded by social workers, he also felt powerless and helpless, unable to express his true thoughts and feelings.
Social workers also systematically controlled the children’s personal communications with their parents, allowing children to keep them updated on the contents of their communications with their parents. There should be private communication and contact between parents and children, and social workers have no right to interfere and control such private communication and contact. The task of social workers should be to protect the interests of children, not to interfere with the normal communication of the family. However, Finnish social workers have the right to coerce children to obey their orders in secret, without legal sanction.
In the presence of the child, the social worker deliberately repeatedly emphasized that there is violence in the family, there is violence against her, and she is not safe. It is immoral and unprofessional for social workers to deliberately repeatedly emphasize in front of children that there is violence in the family, violence against children, and making children feel unsafe. Social workers must operate in a lawful and proper manner and respect the rights of families and privacy. Social workers overemphasize violence and insecurity in front of children, causing additional psychological trauma and distress to children.
Social workers are keen to produce reports that collect child protection from various sources, and each time these reports become factors that make children hate their parents. These reports are not well-founded and evidence-based, causing children to hate or mistrust their parents, which further damages family relationships and parent-child relationships.
Not only are these reports repetitive, but they are also filled with ambiguity. The reporter always said, “I’m not sure whether there is domestic violence.” The reporter made it up out of racial discrimination motives. When these reports reach the social worker, they become accusations without proof. Social workers do not conduct in-depth investigation and evaluation of these reports, but deliberately adopt unfounded reports.
In the end, the parents opposed the foster care, but the social worker forced the child to write a letter to the parents, saying that the social worker did not force her, but she voluntarily. Social workers forced children to write letters denying the actions of social workers, proving once again that they were employing unethical and inappropriate practices. Social workers often try to manipulate children’s words or actions in order to cover up their mistakes or misbehavior.
In short, the Finnish social workers systematically alienate children from the wrong way of hating their parents, and it comes down to being very systematic, which is unique in all civilized countries in the world.
1. False Facts and Misrepresentations: Social workers may alienate and hate their parents by making them believe that their parents are unsafe by falsifying facts and making false statements.
2. Forcing children to do things they don’t want: Social workers may force children to disconnect from their parents, or force children to write untrue statements or letters justifying their misbehavior, creating separation and alienation.
3. Controlling a child’s communication and freedom of movement: Social workers may control a child’s communication and freedom of movement so that the child cannot have private interactions with the parents, or deliberately separate the child from the parents during meetings, depriving the child of freedom of movement and expression .
4. Making False Reports and Charges: Social workers may create false reports and charges, turning vague statements into substantive charges in order to influence how courts and society view families.
5. Ignoring Parents’ Voices and Appeals: Social workers may ignore parents’ voices and appeals, unfairly treat children’s words as facts, and make unfair decisions and actions.
6. Systematic Manipulation of Children’s Emotions and Thoughts: Social workers may systematically manipulate children’s emotions and thoughts, causing children to develop negative feelings and perceptions of their parents, thereby alienating and resenting their parents.
7. Misleading children into believing they are not safe and need protection.
8. Create false child protection reports to instill distrust and hatred in children towards their parents.
9. Emphasize domestic violence in front of children, creating fear and negative emotions in children.
10. Forcing children to be separated from their parents, and surrounded by social workers, they lose their freedom of movement and expression.
11. Control the personal communication between the child and the parents, and let the child report the content of the communication with the parents to the social worker in a timely manner.
12. Under the guise of helping the child, steal the child’s belongings and use this as an excuse not to communicate with the parent.
13. Create and strengthen children’s hatred towards their parents, so that they are no longer willing to communicate with their parents.
14. Deliberately distorting the child’s words and making the child’s words a tool to attack the parents.
15. Forcing children to defend misconduct by social workers or threatening them with being sent home.
16. Create differences and barriers between children and parents, hindering the establishment of a good relationship between parents and children.
