Please spread this message, so as to save our child from abuse by social workers in the name of protection.
STOP！INHUMAN BEHAVIOUR OF SOCIAL WORKERS !
In 2022, our family became the victim of the following institution:
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What is the theme?
Social workers put our child to “kiireellinen sijoitus”, and are planning to put out child into “huostaanotto” simply because my child is suffering from depression and social workers claimed that she does not want to come home. Social workers, WITHOUT ANY FACTS, FABRICATED THE BASIS OF SPIRITUAL VIOLENCE BY PARENTS.
How is the basic situation of our family?
The child is now studying at a junior middle school. She likes the school and her studies very much willfully. Not forced at all by parents. However, at some stage of time, social workers, acting in an arbitrary fashion, DISTORTED the fact, saying that PARENTS FORCED THE CHILD TO STUDY.
No one smokes drinks, uses drugs, gambles, etc.
In our spare time, our family rented a piece of field for farming, growing several kinds of berries, many different kinds of flowers, and vegetables.
In our holidays, our family travelled both to foreign countries and to other Finnish cities.
In Helsinki, family go sunbathing and swimming on beaches in summer holidays, visited islands, churches, museums and so on. In winter, the child go skiing and skating, accompanied by parents.
What are the child’s own interests?
The child has many hobbies, including piano, singing, composition of music scores, for which our family pay around 1000 euros a year, and theater and journalism, which are free of charge.
These hobbies are on Monday to Thursday afternoons, after school. In addition, she also needs to play piano and practice singing at home, so as to fulfil music school’s tasks.
The child also likes video making.
The child is also interested in reading books on topics beyond her own age, for example, financial investment.
What are our attitude for her hobbies?
Parents willfully pay 1000 euros per year for her music school tuition, as well as transport expenses. It started mainly for playing piano, but the child chose more courses there, including singing, composition of music scores, musical performance etc. Altogether, she has many hobbies and gets tired in the afternoon.
She has little time and energy to do homework of the school.
We discouraged her from so many hobbies. We insisted that she put basic education first, because this influences her future development. However, we did not forced her to quit anything.
She was also interested in playing international chess, doing sudoku, puzzle games etc, mostly with father.
Her father read children’s stories from her young age in the evening before sleeping. This lasted from daycare to earliy years of primary school. From around the 4th year of pprimary school, she read stodies primarily by herself.
What are the child’s characteristics?
She likes to talk with people outside of our family, including neighbors, librarians, teachers, renovation workers, as well as online game players. Topics include but not limited to family household scores. She is also interested in other family’s household scores. She is particularly interested in other family’s activities and foods.
She admired her friend’s family playing console games together and puzzle games, even if her friend’s mother did not go to work nor red books.
What caused the family conflict?
Child’s use of mobile phone.
What was the rule in our family?
Our child was 13 years old when all those happen. And now from September, she is 14 years old.
In our family, we had only a very ordinary rule for using mobile phone for child: put away from hands after 22:30 o’clock in the evening on workdays on Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, and Sunday. On Friday and Saturday, the time is flexible because the child always wants to use a long time.
Except our expectation for sufficient sleep, the child enjoys great extent of freedom.
How the rule lead to conflict?
Our child played telephone games, especially Roblox, as well some other games with roles fighting with each other. When she played the games, she refused to put down mobile phone. Parents, particularly mother, tried repeatedly to get the mobile phone away from child’s hand.
The only reason that conflicts arose in the evening or at night was that the child played games and did not go to sleep. That was also the only reason why several reports to the child protection centre were made.
How the child behaved around the time?
From around the summer of 2021, the child played a lot of mobile phone games. She would like to sleep late at night. When parent stop her playing the games, she started speak bad words to mother, and sometimes also to father. These words were absolutely not used in by both parents before. The child learned to use them from school.
In our opinion, these are still normal due in her teenage years.
How was the first report to police?
The child played mobile phone games or using social media on 27.3.2022. Father was not at home, working at nightshift. On mid-night, mother could not get mobile phone away from the child. The child went to toilet and locked the door from inside. Mother went to have a rest for a while. Around 3:00 o’clock, mother worried about the child and try to ask the child to open the door. The child did open the door and did not answer. Her mother had not the key to the toilet, and opened the door with a ruuvimeisseli. It was used to open the door. After she opened the door, she hide the ruuvimeisseli behind so that the child was not frightened.
The child has been in toilet for around 2-3 hours. She called the emergency centre. Police came to check the situation. They saw that only a mother and a child were at home, who argued because of the mobile phone, and left. But they made a report to children protection centre.
How the children protection centre worked?
A family instructor (perheohjaja) was assigned. Family had several meetings with her. The family instructor also made contacted with the child privately for many times, via telephone, video call and so on. The social instructor completely put parents and child at hostile stances. These meetings were in fact catastrophic. Everytime after the meeting, parents faced difficult times to deal with the child. Here are some of the social instructor’s ideas:
- I (family instructor herself) am not a judge and do not tell you what is right and what is wrong.
- Child can do whatever she likes to do.
- Child can play mobile phone until 23:00 o’clock in the evening.
- (When we show we have family rules on use of mobile phone and sleeping time) These are ridiculous and unnecessary.
- Child does not need to go to high school, nor to university.
- Finnish families have priority over foreign families. The child was induced to say that she wants to go to a Finnish family.
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In nearly every aspect of lives, the family instructor gave her misleading and harmful information. All these are regarding unprincipled freedom, anarchism. The child believed her and trusted her. The child was increasingly hostile with parents.
How the child’s homework lead to another catastrophe?
In spring of 2022, when the social instructor’s harmful work entered the final stage, another catastrophe emerged. The Finnish language teacher asked the students to write a composition. The child thought for a long time and failed to write out. However, at the final stage, she submitted a writing on our family life and her own feeling, which were not a record of actual facts. She wrote that:
Things seldom got smoothly between parents. So she wanted to spend less time with parents. — This is completely her own feeling.
Parents make future plan for her, for example, to become a doctor. Parents forced her to study for a doctor. — This is not true. Parents only talked about what will be better careers. In her own diary, she wrote that she wanted to study for a doctor.
She did not learn emotional skills and social skills from parents. — What? She took some terms from books and imposed on parents, and accused parents this way.
And many other things that were completely from her imagination.
However, Finnish teacher and her class teacher made another report to children protection centre based on this writing.
The report empowered the misleading information from social instructor. The child was misled to more hostile stance against parents.
What happened before September 2022?
Mother’s mother died in home country. Due to corona measures, mother could not go back to home country for a farewell to her mother. An atmosphere of sorrow lingered in the family. Mother talked a lot with relatives in home country via telephone calls and video calls. Due to time lag problem, sometimes this might be disturbing, but quite benign.
Mother had free days off work. Father continued working.
Due to such special situation, parents might have less interaction with the child.
How did school teachers and social workers deal with child’s tiredness and depression?
On 22 September 2022 morning, the child did not want to go to school. She said that sports course is useless. She didn’t say that she was tired and needed a rest. So parents encouraged her to go to school.
The child went to school lately. She went directly to class teacher’s office, crying. She told the teacher that she wanted to go to somewhere to sleep, but she did not want to go home.
The teacher, the rector, and a special education teacher DID NOT INFORM PARENTS, but they contacted social workers. Two social workers went to the school, asked the child some questions. These questions equal to spiritual torture:
When asked how is the family situation, the child said that the family situation did not change better nor worse.
When asked whether there was violence at home, the child said that there was no violence at home.
However, social workers made a conclusion that in the family there was “spiritual violence”.
Then two or three more social workers made a decision on the matter and put the child into “urgent placement” (kiirellinen sijoitus). It meant that the child was transferred to another family, and parents were prohibited to meet the child.
Social workers stabbed in the back when the family was in a hard time, taking our child without any reason when her mother was in deep sorrow.
Where is the institutional decision-maker?
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Who are the decision-makers that abused their duty?
Social workers.
What were the results of the decision?
- Our child was tired and wanted to sleep somewhere. However, the wrong process lasted hours and she did not get sufficient rest.
- She has to face many people, most of them rushing to get her “oral confession” regarding “how her family abused her”, but not “why she got tired but not told parents about it”.
- Our child was extremely frightened by those people. She was nearly abducted to the foster family, without her own will respected.
- Our family was stabbed in the back, when our child was tired, the mother was in sorrow and the father was in an effort to calm both.
- Our child could not go to school due to the foster family being a new place and being far from her school. At the same time, she got a lot of unnecessary appointments not beneficial to my child but most possibly beneficial to someone from the social workers.
What happened in the foster family (sijaisperhe)?
From the first day, the child cut contact with parents, preventing telephone calls and WhatsApp calls of all family members.
On 12 October, 2022, the child went from the foster family to school. She went to teacher’s office, crying.
This time, the teacher did not blame the foster family.
The teacher called social workers again for help.
The social worker put the child into “Herxxxxxxxx vastanotto”.
They only made an elegant notice to parents when the child was transferred to the new place.
Nuorten vastaanotto
What happened in “Nuorten vastaanotto”?
Even though the child was a little depressed, she was very normal, kind and smart. She reads a lot of books out of her own interests.
But sometimes, she feels tired.
However, they arranged a series of psychologist’s visit in a mysterious place, without an adult’s accompanying. Then a diagnosis was made that the child suffers from depression and started medical treatment.
In addition, social workers continue to seek “huostanotto” for her, so that she does not return home.
The reason is that social workers claimed that our family is not safe for our child, due to the so-called “spiritual violence”.
What was their decision-making procedure?
They cited law, but provided no facts. Their decision was made only on a 13 year-old child. Now she is 14 years old. She was misled by social workers for 7 months. Social workers taught her to talk only bad aspects of our family, no good aspects at all. Every now and then, social workers distorted my child’s words.
In addition, social workers always neglected parents own claims.
They are ignorant, self-righteous, and arbitrary. In the name of helping and protecting the child, they abused the child, isolated her from family and friends, put her under great psychological pressure, subjected her to frequent interrogations for no reason, and made her fabricate parental violence out of thin air .
What is the basic evaluation of the decision-making?
The decision-making process is no difference from that of the Nazis during the Second World War on persecution of minorities. They provided no evidence, followed no due procedure, and abused their duty to put a family into chaos and catastrophe.
What were the results of the new decision?
- Our child was exhausted once again.
- She has to face more people, most of them still rushing to get her “oral confession” regarding “how her family abused her”, but not “why she got tired but not told parents about it”.
- Our child was extremely misled and frightened by more people. She said that she did not know whether she should come home to calm her mother. But no one responded and she was prevented to come home.
- Our family was stabbed in the back once again, when our child was still tired.
- Our child could not go to school for some more time due to the place being new and being far from her school. At the same time, she got more unnecessary appointments, continuously and repeatedly, not beneficial to my child but most possibly beneficial to someone from the social workers.
Where is our child now?
Our child is in a locked institution. Her freedom is partly limited. Outsiders are prohibited to visit her freely.
What is our child’s appeal?
On 13 October 2022, our child said that she was wondering whether she should come home to calm her mother.
In early October, the topic of negotiation was designed for the child to come home. However, social workers changed it when the negotiation started, to placing the child in a long-term institution.
Social workers did not encourage our child to come home, but encourage her to leave home.
What is our appeal?
Our child is sick. She must come home. Her situation became worse because social workers misled her to fight against parents.
Our child must come home.
Please spread this message, so as to save our child from abuse by social workers in the name of protection.
STOP！INHUMAN BEHAVIOUR!
